This message might be a bit scattered as I am pregnant and a bit distracted regarding many things including getting ready to travel to Canada.
Miranda is expected around Easter 2017.
The husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 28 months before finding out that I got pregnant.
She was very much planned but not expected to take this long to be conceived.
For the two years that we lived in Thailand. We investigated why it was taking so long to get pregnant because of I was taught that if you have sex even once without birth control in place you will of course get pregnant. I know some people who have had this happen. Yet, we ended up trying IUI and considered doing IVF. I felt used by the clinic that we went to in Thailand. I felt like all we were to them was a cash bonus. I will not be recommending Thailand as a destination for fertility treatments. Maybe once apon a time they were good and inexpensive but with the popularity of expats going to do treatments the prices have gone up compared to even 5 years ago.
The first thing my husband asked me when I told him I got a + on the home pregnancy test was, “HOW?” of course he whispered this, as to not wake up our hosts. The reason why he asked how was due to we thought that we were going to have to do IVF to get pregnant because of the IUI treatments not working twice. I know that there are people who have tried for much longer than us and then they “give-up” or adopt to be able to have a family. I am very glad that it hasn’t taken any longer for us to get pregnant as I will be 37 when I have my first child. Yes, I said first child. We would like to have a sibling for Miranda too.
My Parenting mantra “Do what works” and of course you have to apply this to yourself. What works for someone else may not work for you/me/them.
I am so excited to be having my own child. I have had plenty of people offer me their children for an hour or a weekend but I’ve always had to give them back. The most recent one I recall was a baby in Thailand; she was being held by a front desk clerk. Then the baby reached out for me and the clerk handed me the baby and we got very comfortable very fast. I really didn’t want to give her back. Now I will not have to give this baby back to anyone! Nobody can tell me: don’t do this and don’t do that and you must do this and that. Well I guess they can feel free to tell me all the advice they want but I only have to do what works for us.
So far: Miranda is a world traveler. She was conceived in England, then we traveled to Kuwait for 3 months, and now we are heading back to Canada to be born.
The plan is to have a home birth. It will be nice to spend some time with my brother and mother when Miranda is born. I am so excited to have my husband become a father.